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Dear Dr. Love,
Why is it that women on the dating scene really “work” at being beautiful? We cut, we color, we highlight, we shave, we pluck, we wax, we tone and we tan—all in an effort to look absolutely gorgeous. Often we find that men aren’t quite as committed to doing the same things to impress the ladies back. Why do you think that is?

Kim and Jodi from Commack

Dear Kim and Jodi,
I think you may be onto something bigger than you think. I think any male reader who has been married or has a “live-in girlfriend” can identify with your question.

In short, women really do it for themselves. I asked several lady friends about this concept and most say a woman at any age still wants to be looked at, admired and chased. If not by her spouse, then by others in a restaurant or at a party.

Maybe it’s a self-esteem issue, but gray hair doesn’t cut it in our society, nor do yellow teeth, frown lines or varicose veins, and so on. But many men who have gray hair are said to be distinguished. Many men with wrinkles are said to have “weathered well,” etc.

Men do not have to work as hard (except to get rid of their beer belly) to get a date. Now I am not saying that going to a fine restaurant in shorts and sneakers is proper dress, but some guys think wearing jeans and a clean shirt is enough. I prefer a more polished look. Then again, in the year 2010, who really dresses up anymore to impress anyone? It’s unfortunate because I can remember when even rock and roll acts were slick (oops, dating myself again).

Kim and Jodi, I can tell you one thing—when I’m on a date, I still try to impress her from top to bottom. From shoes to cologne (my favorite is Creed), some men do care, you just have to look!
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