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Dear Dr. Love,
Are you really able to understand a woman’s perspective on dating? As a man, you can never walk in my shoes. Just wondering…

Lola, Uniondale

Dear Lola,
That’s a short—but loaded—question! To be quite candid, I always strive to be objective in my comments. But oftentimes, my answers are “tainted” with my personal insights and experiences.

I’d be a fool if I were less than honest in my observations. And, I most certainly agree that I could never have complete empathy for women since I write from a male viewpoint.

Lola, you have to agree that men and women are coming from different places. Most men I talk to are visual. They want a pretty face, great body, good personality. Women look for responsible gentlemen, intelligent with a good job (better yet, a good career) that are able to provide economic stability in the relationship.

And yes, I admit many women today have their own financial war chest. Yet, how many women really enjoy taking out the garbage, cleaning the gutters and being a handy-woman?

Objectivity in dating “the 2nd time around” can never be an easy task because men and women have such detailed criteria and expectations in who and what they are seeking in a mate.

I often meet people at Pulse parties who will, on one hand, tell me how much they enjoy my column. Seconds later, they tell me they can write a book on their experiences. My answer: Write it!

Lola, I trust I put your mind at ease. Just appreciate that even “Dr. Love” learns new things everyday from the people I meet…and so should YOU!

Please remember to email your questions to: .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address). And until next month, happy dating.